I am so grateful to Karen for navigating us through the world of teen help.
In the past year I have been to: Utah, New York, Arizona, Massachusetts, North Carolina, Florida and Tennessee to tour schools and programs. On the vast majority visits I am truly impressed with the professionalism and dedication of the staff and the maturity and insight the kids have developed. However, it is even more important, when I visit a program and I am not impressed. Programs may have a great website and glowing testimonials, but there is no substitute for a professional evaluating the program; in person, on site.
When a family chooses to send their child to a residential treatment facility it is, necessarily, only after multiple treatment failures at home. This choice requires an enormous emotional and financial commitment, therefore, the best possible placement should be made. When I evaluate programs, I assess the qualifications of the staff, the relationship between the kids and the staff and I always spend private time with the kids. In the past year I have ruled out some programs after visiting them. The first program I ruled out was because there was only one trained therapist for over 60 kids. The next was because there appeared to be no relationship between the clinical director and any of the students, he did not know their names and they did not know him. Finally, I ruled out a program when a young man at the program told me the one thing he would change about the program is that they should not have staff that is easily triggered by the student’s anger, that program closed within 6 months.
I believe passionately in the strength and power of extraordinary professional programs to help children and support families. However, I also know that the families searching for treatment are often in crisis and extremely vulnerable, and the wrong place can be highly traumatic for the child and family. My intention is to visit as many programs as frequently as possible to ensure a positive experience for the child and family.
I spoke at length with an MSW who has worked in the schools and community-based organizations for several years. Last summer she was a therapist in a Therapeutic Wilderness program. She was profoundly impacted by her work in the field and her practice has evolved. Her role at the program was to work with approximately 6 boys at a time., She saw the boys individually at least once a week, lead groups at least once a week, supported the field instructors, spoke to the parents every week and co-lead a three day family workshop.
The biggest difference she experienced was because the parents were required to be involved in treatment. She found that the relationships she forged with the families in the program were stronger and more complex than many she had formed in her years of practice in the community. Because the family has committed to at least 7 weeks of the program, it is possible to confront the parents honestly about their part in the difficulties at home. The parents must look at their part in their child’s problem and begin to look at how they must also change. She found it was this honest assessment of the family system that was the reason she often recommended further residential treatment after wilderness.
She heard a boy say that “6 weeks in was like 2 years of therapy at home. She whole-heartedly agrees. She found wilderness treatment to be intense and real. There were no drugs to cloud the mind, no escape from difficult issues. The young person couldn’t hide in a room or by playing video games. It was also not possible to avoid issues for a 60 minute appointment; in the field, the therapists and guides waited for the student to be ready, all day and all night, there was no escape. It was so powerful, every day they were reminded, just by waking up, that they were there for a reason and there was no hiding from the reality of what was not working at home.
Now that she is back in the community she has found that she uses more metaphors and many more experiential therapies. She has found that she speaks to her clients with a renewed thoughtfulness and care remembering that they are always learning in every relationship.
by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman
A parenting book that uses brain research to help parents look anew at issues such as: sibling rivalry, false praise, overinvolved parenting, teen rebellion and more.
How to Land Your Kid In Therapy
by Lorri Gottleib from The Atlantic
An eye-opening article that discusses how obsessing over our children’s happiness may rob them of a happy and self-sufficient adulthood.
We’ve Got Issues
by Judith Warner
An important book that looks with compassion and reason at the popular assumption that parents are over-diagnosing and over-medicating their children. This is an important book for parents to read as they are making difficult treatment decisions for their child.
Karen was awarded the Distinguished Service Award for “unyielding service to young people and their families” from the Independent Small Programs Alliance. She was also awarded the Excellence in Education Award from Woodbury Reports for “appropriate placements and commitment to at-risk youth” based on feedback from therapeutic programs. Karen was the keynote speaker for the National Association of Therapeutic Wilderness Camping (NATWC) on the role of an educational consultant in wilderness placement.
I am available to discuss any questions you have about therapeutic boarding schools, boarding schools, residential treatment or wilderness programs. In addition, I am available to speak to your group about the scope of residential options and what client families they serve – just call or email.